Godly Gals ~ Theresa Trotter

Struggling With Forgiveness
By: Theresa Trotter

Have you ever struggled with Forgiveness?  
Have you ever wondered how come it is harder to forgive others sin against us than it is for God to forgive our sins against him? 
Am I the only one that has at one time or another been stuck on the hamster wheel of holding someone’s sins over their heads?  
Unable to forgive them for an action that hurt me? 
What about when you love the person and they hurt you? Break your trust? Use you? 
How easy is it to just turn the other cheek and say “I forgive you”?
What is Forgiveness? What is the true definition of it?
Forgiveness is……
1. To excuse for a fault or an offense; pardon.
2. To renounce anger or resentment against.
It took me a long time to really understand the depth of walking away from hurt.  That the more unforgiveness I carried around, the only one I was hurting was myself.   I was stealing time from the Lord who wanted to work in my life. I was missing my blessings because I was stuck in unforgiveness.
One day I woke up and it was like God was sitting on the end of my bed.  He was begging me to let him heal me. He told me to seek him first to heal my pain and unforgiveness.  At that moment I realized that I wanted the life he promised. I realized that I could forgive the people from my past.  God didn’t say that I had to renew those relationships.  He just asked me to give the pain and unforgiveness to Him.  To forgive them so that He could give me the life he wants for me, for my family.
As I sit here today I reflect back on the things that have caused me the most pain.  I have made a choice.  I have chosen not to be a victim of my past. I choose to be a Princess of my Divine Father! I am reconciled, loved, forgiven and most of all His child. My Heavenly Father Loves ME!  
Guess what…..He loves all of you too!  
Please don’t let unforgiveness burden you, Give forgiveness freely and live in JOY!
Oh, what a joy for those
whose disobedience is forgiven,
Whose sins are put out of sight.
Yes, what a joy for those
whose record the Lord has cleared of sin. – Romans 4:7-8

A Little Bit About Theresa:

I live in California with my Husband and 2 Children.  I am in my 40’s and I have been enjoying it.  My children are teenagers.   I am looking forward to them moving out and us all creating adult friendships.  I was raised knowing Jesus.  I raised hell as a teenager when I walked away from Jesus.  He was still with me, protecting me, caring for me and asking me to come back during that time.  I finally started to listen at the age of 25 when I rededicated my life to him.  God’s Love and Peace are the Greatest Gift in the World.

Thank you so much Theresa for sharing about Forgiveness today, I know that this is something that so many of us can relate to!  We really appreciate you sharing your heart with us today!
We’re still looking for more of you to feature in the Godly Gals series!  If you or someone you know would like to be featured as a Godly Gal, then please take a minute to email me at melsworldministry {at} gmail {dot} com to get a set of the Submission Guidelines.  We’re lining up posts for mid-April and May now.  
We’re looking forward to meeting more “Real Women, Real Life, Real Faith” women in action!
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  1. Great post! =)

    I’d love to add that when you offer forgiveness to someone who has really hurt you, you are not agreeing what they did was okay! So many people feel like they cant forgive because they feel it gives the impression what happened was right! It is not! Forgiving is not condoning but rather pardoning the action … Forgiveness releases both of you from a huge burden & allows the hurt in your heart to begin healing.

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