I love this! A really cool blogger chick friend of mine “JustaBeachKat” posted this a week or so ago and since I read it I haven’t stopped thinking about it.
It’s so true you know…to have friends you actually have to B-1 first. I have learned over the last four months that there are a lot of friendships that come and go, especially through transition and change, but what I have also realized is that I was never really a good friend to anyone either. This was really hard for me to swallow because I am extremely outgoing, like to have a lot of people around, and have something like 800+ contacts in my outlook file (scary, I know!).
There are times when we have to step back and see the “bigger picture” and what I have seen by stepping back is that I was always using the guise of “I’m too busy”, “I don’t have enough time”, “when things slow down”, etc. THEN I will have time to go do this, go visit her, spend time doing that. When in all reality, I had time, I even did some of those things, but I was never really present in any of them because I was too distracted by the thousands of things that were all demanding my attention all at the same time. (Talk about being out of balance…I was the poster child for it!)
When I was up in North Carolina I spent some time re-connecting with someone that I was friends with. It was great…but you know what I learned…that as I get older I am not going to take for granted the relationships (friendships) that God has put in my life anymore. It takes time, it takes effort, and it will not apply to all 800+ of those contacts in my outlook file, but with God’s guidance and His perfect grace I will find the few who are loyal, loving, and deserving to be called my friends.
I love this verse about friendship that I found in the Message Bible,Proverbs 27:9, Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight, a sweet friendship refreshes the soul.
Sometimes you have to let some go, let some fall, and let some new ones in to find those who really love you the most. When you find them; cherish them, pray for them, and thank God for them, because they are a gift.
Finding My Friends,