How is it that Beth Moore can read my mind? I mean, seriously…am I the only one who feels like she is banging me over the head here lately. Especially, and I mean totally and completely, in this chapter.
I have so many highlighter moments that the only thing I can do is start typing them here so we can share them together.
Page 91 – “We don’t need to deal with our pits. We need to get out of our pits. You can do it. Even if you have a history of failed attempts. Even if you don’t think you deserve it. Even if you’ve never lived anywhere else.”
Page 92 – “God meant for people to offer one another a helping hand. The trouble comes when we insist upon someone equally human becoming our deliverer. Another person – rare though he may be – really can pull us out of a pit, but for the life of him, he can’t set us free.” (Can you hear me screaming AMEN on this one!!!)
Oh my goodness, just when I think it can’t get any better she goes on to say on Page 95 – “At his best, man can make a mighty fine man, but he’s a useless god. Contrary to the serpent’s suggestion in the Garden, people simply can’t be divine. The higher the expectation we have for them, the further they’re going to fall.” (All I can say is PREACH IT SIESTA!)
Here’s the deal friends…you have to READ this book, specifically this Chapter, to fully grasp the nuggets of wisdom that are on these pages. I will close you out with my last highlighter moment and that is the last paragraph of this chapter.
Page 110 – “Maybe you’re beginning to see that this person wasn’t being heartless and hateful. Just human. Didn’t have what it took. Maybe you can allow God to bring you to the place to forgive that person for failing to be Jesus for you. Or maybe you should fire someone who still insists on trying. Maybe you – like me – can now forgive yourself for accidentally setting someone up for failure. Maybe that someone was you. And maybe both of us could just let Jesus be Jesus.” (There is nothing to be said at the end of that statement…)
Now, let’s dig in and start to tear into the Personal Application Questions and see what we can come up with:
1) By now, you’ve probably identified one or more pits you have been in. How have you been trying to “deal” with them up until now?
– Climbing out all by myself (or trying to)
– Self help books (I’ll just buy another one)
– In the past I tried to rescue myself, I finally learned I can’t get out without God.
2) What practical steps can you take to address the limitations of your friends, family members, professional counselor, minister, and support group?
– not expecting them to fix it, carry me, or to shoulder the burden that God has asked me to carry.
– I try to remember that people are people.
– be there for them, but ultimately give it over to God.
3) Are you angry with someone in your life whom you have felt or feel has let you down? What role can forgiveness play in helping you to heal the hurt feelings?
– Yes! It is 100% the key for me to be able to move on and heal.
– I don’t know if I am – I am still confused.
– Not sure
– You have to keep on realizing that people are human.
– One had to walk away and seek healing from someone that was actually there in the place that we were meeting for the Live! group. (Go God!)
4) What does Philippians 1:6 and 2 Corinthians 1:10 tell us about God’s faithfulness? Which words in these verses mean the most to you personally, and why?
– faithful to complete it
– continue to deliver
– never going to give up on me, he’ll be there always
– He HAS (past tense, it has alrady happened) delivered us.
5) Is there someone in your life you’ve been attempting to rescue? If so, how do you think you should relate to his or her problem from now on?
– went back to Beth’s 5 points
– even when you try
– yes, I can pray, offer advice, encourage, send them to Jesus, and be there for them, but I can’t fix it for them.